After we find the person we want to spend our life with we may decide to add a baby into the mix. Parenthood is wonderful and if you are looking for a bonding experience I do not think anything can match that of raising children together. But you have to be prepared for the many changes that a baby will make in your life and in the time you have to spend with your partner.
Did you know that many couples say that having a baby caused problems in the relationship? That is not to say that it was the baby's fault, far from it!
The usual complaint is that with the birth of the baby came a lot of new responsibilities. By the end of the day the parents, especially the mom in most cases, are very tired and instead of being in the mood for intimacy they are more likely to be ready to go to sleep.
When the next day comes the routines repeat themselves. In many cases the husband will complain that the new baby now gets all of the attention and energy of the mother, and there is nothing left over for him.
My suggestion is that both parents work on this. It is vital that both of you feel involved in the baby's care. By taking a role in caring for the baby both parents will in fact be bonding with their child while strengthening the bonds of the relationship.
Not only will one feel supported by the other but each of you will find that you are becoming a real family and not just a couple with a baby. One word of caution though, it is important to keep some time for you as a couple.
Some couples continue a date night once a week or as often as possible. Others find that they can spend time together when the baby is napping and that meets their needs. Obviously you will need to find what works best for your unique relationship.
Hopefully you discussed this before the baby's birth and you already have some sort of plan regarding how to manage the care of the baby and find time for your relationship. Luckily friends and family members are usually more than happy to spend time with your new baby. Take advantage of that.
If you do not want to leave your newborn for an extended period of time then consider simply leaving him while you and your partner go out for dinner. You may be surprised at how relaxing your meal is when you do not have to worry with your baby for a change.
Make the most of the time you have with your baby because they grow up faster than you expect. Your baby will soon be a toddler and just when you get used to that change it seems that overnight he has turned into a teenager!
Remember that your baby is what makes you and your partner parents. Your baby is a lifelong bond between the two of you. Enjoy the precious life that bonds you!
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